day I started this site was January 22, 2000. The
story that you just read, "It's A Long Walk Back to
Forever" .... was written by me ..... in 1984. I had such
high hopes for my daughter back then. I thought we had caught her
addiction early. I thought that when she came out of the program,
that she would be "fixed".
The ugly truth is, she wasn't "fixed" then
..... and now, so many years later, she still wasn't "fixed".
Her addiction had grown to huge proportions over the years.
Addiction isn't prejudiced. It doesn't matter who
you are .... it doesn't matter what color you are .... how much
money you have .... if you're homeless ..... or if you have a family
who loves you dearly ...... it can happen to anyone.
At first, I was so ashamed of her problem .... I
tried for a long time to hide it from everybody. But you see ....
having an addicted person in your family, is like having an elephant
in your living room. It's so big ... it destroys everything in its
path. It's so big .... no one can make it go away. So finally,
everybody tries to ignore it. You step around it ..... you clean up
after it ...... you fix the things it breaks. Problem is ... pretty
soon .... it has destroyed so much of your life ... your family ....
that you just can't ignore it anymore. And it's "broken"
so much .... that you just can't continue to fix them.
Drug addiction not only destroys the user, it also
destroys the family. Addiction robs you of your money, it robs you
of your spirit, and finally, when you have nothing else left to give
it .... it robs you of your soul.
that's how I was feeling. I had picked up after that "elephant" for way too many years now, I've cleaned
up after it, I've paid for all the things it's broken, I've watched
it trample over people I love. I've felt the pain of watching
someone I love die a little more everyday. At this point, I had nothing
else left to give it. I was too tired to clean up after it anymore. I
had no more money to pay for the things it's broken. I had no more
heart to keep watching it destroy the people ... and the things I
I had reached the end.
That was the reason for starting these pages. I had finally realized and accepted the fact that
there was nothing more that I could do. What I had to do, at this
point, was to concentrate on
"fixing me." With God's help, I had to turn her loose.
Give her over to Him. I knew that He was the only one who
could possibly "fix" her.
said earlier, these pages are to be my "therapy" .... my
way of dealing with this problem, my way (with God's help) of
"fixing" me. I plan to add to them regularly with writings
of some of the experiences we've been through .... and some of the
ways we've dealt with the problem.
you'll come back often .... I hope you'll email me ..... I hope that
together we can wage a war against drugs and maybe win a few of the
battles we're forced to fight. My hope is to spend a lot of time
here, researching and learning. I hope to provide links to places
that can help "us" in this war, and if nothing else ....
make this a place of solace where you can come and know that you
aren't alone in this nightmare world of drugs.
I refuse to
give up until this battle is won. I guess that would sound futile to
some, since my daughter has died. She was alive when I first started
this site, and when she first saw it, I was sure she'd be so angry, but
surprisingly, she wasn't. She seemed so proud of my effort and she
sent the link to many, many people. She wanted to get off the drugs
so badly. She really wanted so much to be free from her addiction,
she just couldn't do it. But she was adamant that I keep the site
going ..... she knew that many of her friends had found help here and she
wanted .... even in her death .... for her story to help someone find
their way back. Maybe you .... maybe your child .....
Angel - Prodigal Daughter"
Luke 15: 11-32
This image shows the justice and mercy of God as
the Spirit of God in the form of an angel guards the prodigal
daughter who has run off to the city. The angel occupies the same
space as the girl but she is unaware. In a final moment of
desperation she lets out a cry. The sword in the hands of the angel
represents the word of God ready to defend her. So the angel
protects her from her suitors. With one leg in the gutter the trail
of her life can be seen. Above her head is a stain glass window that
shows the welcoming arms of Jesus taking children on to his lap.
This is her longing,
"Could someone really love her?"
- Rik Berry -